Hey, I have the exact same issue about “falling in love”!! Really fascinated me to come across this comment :)) I’m a girl though and this is about falling in love with a guy and I’ve always labelled this as “not making sense” to me. When I thought about it logically, he was really not a good person to fall for, and there was very little foundation between us, anyway. I can totally relate to your acting in a needy, compulsive way that “doesn’t seem like love at all”.

I always thought that I was a bit above others in terms of not distracting myself as much. In fact, I barely go on Facebook now or haven’t watched TV in a long time because I hate how it numbs me so much. I can go on long commutes without bringing anything with me and I can simply stare into space from time to time. But, I guess, I have been guilty to use my mind as a distraction from time to time. Especially with that falling in love part. Man, it makes me crazy!

But now I see the true meaning of such statements. It’s to realize our true nature and emptiness is exactly that. There is no ultimate satisfaction in doing things because it’s all gone when you stop thinking about it.
It’s interesting that I currently have an “issue” with falling in love (yeah I know calling it an issue seems kind of funny :D). But the thing is, thinking about this girl is really distracting me. It makes me behave in a compulsive way that doesn’t seem like love at all – in fact it seems like pure selfishness, to be honest with you. And the more such thoughts persist, the more I become self-centered in “love”, actually caring less and less about her as a person. Yeah, I’m a man and it’s supposed to be like that I guess , but I don’t like this shallownees my own nature is exposing me to. I’d much more prefer to really love than to endure this compulsion of thought.
The same “rule” applies: When I’m not distracted by these thoughts/fantasies of love – which I know aren’t really love at all – I’m free to actually love, that is, act in a way that is nice/respectful/compassionate to other human being. The sad part is that that kind of approach certainly won’t get me laid :-/ Just a joke! 😀